Answers to Frequently Asked Questions about MHB's Gay Parenting Assitance Program (GPAP)


Men Having Babies created The Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP) as part of our mission to make building a family more affordable for gay prospective parents that need financial assistance for their surrogacy journey. GPAP annually facilitates over a million dollars worth of financial support for gay prospective parents. Read answers to commonly asked questions about the program.

GPAP: Stage I
What is Stage I?
Stage I is the journey booster piece of the program that provides prospective parents who qualify based on income and other criteria access to discounts from clinics, agencies, and law firms.
When are applications for Stage I accepted?
Stage I applications are accepted year-round.
What is the income threshold for the program?
The income threshold was set by our board of directors in consultation with the donors and service providers that contribute to our program. While we do not divulge our methods for calculating eligible income for assistance into GPAP, we do take into consideration several factors including regional cost of living and age.
Is there an application fee for Stage I?
In order to apply for the Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP), you must be a Supporting Member of MHB in good standing. Membership benefits include significant discounts from a growing list of surrogacy providers and a wide range of exclusive peer guidance resources and offerings. Members in good standing do not pay any application fees for Stage I or subsequent renewals. If you are not yet a member, please visit our membership page to join before proceeding with the application.
Can I/we apply Stage I discounts towards a clinic and / or agency that I/we have already signed with?
Not likely - most of the clinics and agencies who participate with the GPAP program will not allow existing clients to apply GPAP discounts after signing.
When is the right time to apply?
This is a question that only you can answer. If you are approved for Stage I, you will receive a dated certificate in order to apply for discounts with clinics and / or agencies in our program. Since this is time sensitive, you may want to apply if you plan to start your journey within the next 6 – 18 months.
Why do you ask for ethnicity and race in your application?
As a not-for-profit organization, Men Having Babies receives financial support from individuals, event registrations, as well as grants. Many granting organizations request information regarding demographics of the people that we serve. These questions are based on the same criteria used by the U.S. Census Bureau.
My country is not listed here, what do I do?
To qualify for Stage I applicants need to provide documentation regarding their income and their criminal background (and for Stage II they also need to provide details about assets and credit score). We require the help of a local organization in order to adjust these requirements to each country, to facilitate the communication with the applicants, and to process the documentation once submitted. If we still do not have a partnering organization in your country, please feel free to suggest one and to facilitate the introduction with them so we can make the necessary arrangements.

GPAP: Stage II
What is Stage II?
Stage II is the direct assistance piece of the program where individuals or couples are selected by the grant committee to receive direct financial assistance and / or to be matched with partnering providers (clinics, agencies, law firms) for services free of charge. Each year we award about $1,000,000 in cash grants and free surrogacy agency, IVF clinic services, and legal finalization / parentage rights services.
When are applications for Stage II accepted?
Stage II are reviewed annually. Eligible Stage I recipients will be invited to apply for Stage II between June-August of each year, and are selected for the program after a months-long process.
Do you provide retroactive expense reimbursement?
No, the purpose of this program is to help individuals or couples who would not be able to start this process without some type of assistance. We do not provide any type of retroactive expense reimbursement for any individuals/couples who have already gone through or are currently going through the surrogacy process.
If I/we are already signed up with a clinic and/or agency, will I/we still qualify for Stage II?
You may still be eligibility for some type of assistance through Stage II for any part of your journey that is not yet done or arranged for, such as free legal services (depending on your location, where the baby may be born, and those legal services that we have available through the program). With that said, just as a reminder, we do not provide any type of retroactive expense reimbursement for any individuals/couples who have already gone through or are currently going through the surrogacy process.
How much do I need to self-fund my Stage II journey in order to be considered?
While every situation is different, we do require applications for Stage II to have some money available to contribute to their surrogacy journey (typically no less than 30-40% of total anticipated costs for a US journey).
Why do you ask for current Asset and Liability information?
We ask for this information in order to get a full understanding of your current needs as well as helping you to identify potential financial sources that you may have not already considered. For instance, if you have a mutual fund, can you borrow any amount against that plan? Do you own a second home? If so, is that something you could sell in order to have additional cash on hand.